On curbing the overwhelm of November

November is likely one of the busiest months of the yr.

It’s the month the place every thing is in full swing: work, college, after college actions, social outings; life typically.

It’s virtually like every thing must be achieved this month, earlier than we enter the vacation season and the yr is over!

Including to this, in my household, now we have one other layer of emotional overwhelm as my mother and father have retired and can transfer to India this month, after 25 years of dwelling in Dubai.

I gained’t deny that I’m struggling a wee bit. Generally as busy mums, we don’t take the time to cease and acknowledge the emotional depth of every thing on our plate.

I usually resort to Stoic philosophy after I’m attempting to rationalize or address overwhelm.

Stoicism is an historic Greco-Roman philosophy that I got here throughout a few years in the past after I learn a letter on The Shortness of Life by Stoic thinker Seneca. This lead me to studying the ebook Letters from a Stoic, and I used to be hooked.

Creator and author Ryan Vacation is a modern-day Stoic and has written books to assist perceive it. He calls Stoicism “….a software within the pursuit of self-mastery, perseverance, and knowledge: one thing one makes use of to stay an excellent life.”

Stoicism is usually equated to being impassive however I don’t assume it’s that in any respect. Here’s a 5 minute abstract on it.

I lately learn that “stress is extra your notion of what’s occurring”. It’s “your response to what you understand is occurring”.

There’s a line within the film ‘Bridge of Spies’, the place Tom Hanks asks the Russian spy on numerous events if he was apprehensive about the potential of not being acknowledged as Russian; about being electrocuted and about being gunned down – the reply to which all the time was a Stoic….“would it not assist?”

After all, worrying wouldn’t assist.

Once you consider it that means you notice that they means you react to overwhelm is in your management. And worrying about what just isn’t in your management, is properly, pointless.

You may watch the clips from Bridge of Spies, right here:

• Preserving perspective: Reminding myself that my worries are small and actually not an enormous deal within the massive image of issues.

• Gratitude: Reminding myself of all of the issues I’m blessed with.

• Saying no: Being okay with saying no to no matter is exterior of my bandwidth in the intervening time, irrespective of how a lot I could wish to do it.

• Having lazer focus: Lazer focussing my efforts on what I need to do and can’t delay; and leaving every thing else for one more time.

• Being current with my youngsters: Often after we are overwhelmed, we are inclined to take it out on our family members, youngsters included. The youngsters don’t deserve it and it makes you’re feeling worse So, when it’s time to be with my youngsters, I’m attempting my finest to place every thing else apart, and be current with them.

• Prioritizing relaxation: Overwhelm will get worse if you end up drained. Relaxation is a recreation changer.

• A very good cry: Nothing is as therapeutic as cry. I had one final night time and really feel a lot better at present. Generally all you want is a cry.

If you’re feeling overwhelm this November like I’m, I hope this helped you.

If there may be something you do to assist your overwhelm, please share it right here so we are able to all be taught from you too 🙂

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Have an excellent week.

Love,

Abha x